Holding It, Together
Activating Your Circles of Care
When you or someone you love is seriously ill, you can find yourself overwhelmed, confused, resentful, or stuck. You might not be able to find the right words to express what you need, let alone have those needs met. If this sounds familiar, let’s work together to unlock a relational, practical plan you can actually use.
Map what’s actually happening, medically, practically, and emotionally.
Clarify who’s doing what, and what’s realistic, so no one feels alone or secretly resentful.
Name the hard conversations you’ve been avoiding and plan how to approach them.
Create a simple, shared “care plan” that’s grounded in the values and needs of the ill person.
Four sessions to mobilize circles of care.
Identify what matters most to the person who is ill: their needs, values, fears, limits, or wishes for care and for their relationships.
Translate those wishes into actual roles, processes, boundaries, and everyday decisions, so they are actionable.
Uphold the dignity and wishes of the person who is ill, and to help the people around them organize themselves in a way that honors that.
Together we will:
Overview of session plan
Session 1
75 minutes
Who’s involved, what’s happening, what’s hardest right now.
Identify the “circle of care”: people, roles, constraints, risks.
Values and needs.
Session 2
75 minutes
Clarify roles and look for gaps.
Explore pressure points and possible conflict zones.
Identify 2–3 concrete decisions or conversations that need attention soon.
Session 3
75 minutes
Plan approaches to hard conversations.
Build simple agreements (e.g., updates, decision‑making norms).
Identify external support to fill gaps.
Session 4
60 minutes
Review what’s changed, what’s still hard.
Adjust the care plan and agreements if needed.
Pricing
I offer a sliding scale for all of my services, because access to an end-of-life doula should not be determined by your financial experience.
If you've just received a serious diagnosis, you may not know yet what your financial picture will look like. That's okay. Choose the rate that feels true for you today, and know that we can revisit it if your situation changes.
If you’re stumped about what to choose, or the rates shown are absolutely not accessible to you, reach out and we’ll talk about it together.
Standard Rate
$1,350
For those who can meet this cost without significant financial hardship.
For example:
You might be paying off debt or working to build savings, but you have access to steady income.
You do not spend most of your time thinking about meeting basic needs (including food, housing, and transportation).
You might have to cut back on some discretionary spending to afford the Standard Rate but the sacrifice is short-term.
This is the rate that allows me to do this work sustainably.
Sustaining Rate
$1,800
For those with significant financial resources who want to actively contribute to broader access.
For example:
You have access to financial security, have personal savings, family wealth, or own property.
You are able to pay for “wants” and spend little time worrying about securing necessities in your life.
Paying this rate is a way of extending this work to people who couldn't otherwise access it.
It's participation in something larger than just our work together.
Community Rate
$900
For those for whom the Standard Rate would create genuine financial hardship, not just inconvenience or sacrifice.
This rate is made possible by others who pay at or above the Standard Rate.
Limited to 5 spots per quarter.